If you're following me on Facebook, you've seen my therapy tidbit videos on ANTS (Automatic Negative Thoughts) and boundaries. If you haven't been following along, here's a little snippet of my thoughts on these topics. You can find more on my Facebook page:
ANTS: What's Next
I have been discussing ANTS (Automatic Negative Thoughts) on my Facebook page. There are 11 common types of ANTS, including •Fortune-telling (red ant): predicting the worst possible outcome to a situation •Mind reading (red ant): believing that you know what others are thinking, even though they haven’t told you •Labeling: attaching a negative label to yourself or to someone else •Focusing on the negative (red ant): seeing only the bad in a situation Red ants are the ants that bite. The ones that hurt more and cause more damage. Once you identify these negative thought patterns, you need to know WHAT'S NEXT. So, here it is:
Thoughts vs Feelings
When it comes to ANTS, it’s important to separate THOUGHTS vs. FEELINGS and know the difference! Any time you say “I feel”, and the following word is not an actual feeling (such as happy or sad), you are no longer speaking about an emotion, you are speaking about a thought. Why does this matter? As a therapist, I need to know how you’re actually FEELING. The truth is, we cannot control our feelings. However, we CAN control our thoughts! So, if we change our perspective, our feelings can change along with it.